There have been times when I really, really wanted to make a big change in my life.
But every time I thought about actually taking action, it was as if some invisible being was pressing up against my chest holding me back.
The voice of this force said,
“Wait! Remember all the doubts you have about yourself? This is scary, are you sure you want to do that?
You never know what might happen! You might fail. You’re thinking too big. You should just forget about it.”
Sometimes there is something in your life that needs to change.
You know it from the very core of your being.
Deep inside, you also know what you have to do to make that change.
You come up with so many reasons why you should keep doing what you’ve been doing.
But if you’re honest with yourself, all that is stopping you is fear.
Fear of what might be.
So many amazing opportunities are lost because of our fear of uncertainty!
So how do we move past feelings of uncertainty and overcome fears? You don’t.
THROUGH UNCERTAINTY, OUR MINDS AND SPIRITS BECOME OPEN TO NEW IDEAS.
Being certain about things all the time means you are not growing and can make you get stuck. We aren’t questioning our lives. Not healthy no matter which way you look at it. I might even go as far as saying that we should strive to avoid certainty.
So what do you do when you feel uncertain about something?
Feel the discomfort and do it anyway.
Here’ my theory, if you wait for all the feelings of discomfort and uncertainty to magically go away before you take action, you’ll definitely never make the change.
There is always going to be a bit of fear and a bit of uncertainty with anything new we try.
I repeat: Feel the discomfort, and do it anyway.
The fear will rise and fall throughout any process of change.
Know that, acknowledge it, and work towards your goals anyway.
Here are some quotes to help remind us:
“What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.” –
“I think being fearless is having fears and jumping anyway”
“The amateur believes he must first overcome his fear, then he can do his work. The professional knows that fear can never be overcome. He knows there’s no such thing as a fearless warrior or a dread-free artist.” –
“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.”
W. Clement Stone
“What is a fear of living? It’s being preeminently afraid of dying. It is not doing what you came here to do, out of timidity and spinelessness. The antidote is to take full responsibility for yourself – for the time you take up and the space you occupy. If you don’t know what you’re here to do, then just do some good.”
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
Is there anything you do to help push you through fear?